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Last week I attended an excellent 2-day workshop called "Staying Grounded When on the Spot," offered by the Public Conversations Project, in Watertown, MA. Geared to help facilitators and trainers manage challenging group moments, I found that the skills applied in a variety of settings, including one-on-one communication "hot spots."It was inevitable that our work files would mushroom to sizes far beyond restrictions imposed by most email services. The reason can be summarized in one word: graphics.
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When a conversation becomes difficult, I can return to a more centered, grounded state by asking two questions:
1) What is the purpose of my communication?
2) Will the choices I make serve that purpose?
Let's try it. Think of a conversation that you need to hold but have been putting off because you're concerned that it might not go well. What is your purpose for having the conversation? It helps to have a useful purpose. For example, trying to get the other person to change is not useful. You have no control over that. On the other hand, learning about his experience could be very useful.
What choices could you make to serve this purpose? Listening is a good start, and summarizing to clarify that you both heard the same thing. Asking questions that validate your partner and seek to understand his view also work beautifully. What is your purpose, and what choices will support it?
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Other useful purposes could be sharing your experiences, or looking for mutually beneficial ways to solve a problem. Perilous purposes include venting on your partner, or making sure he understands how wrong he is. It sounds silly - who would ever choose such a purpose? But I know I've done it.At first it seems like much fun having the cash to indulge and immerse yourself in high-definition video and surround sound, and then you realise there's more decision to be made than .....
One caution: sometimes I think I'm going into a conversation with a useful purpose, like learning, but I find that the feeling or attitude behind it is more about revenge or punishment. So though I use the "appropriate" words, my partner still feels attacked.
Paying attention to your purpose for the conversation will give you the courage to have it and help you to stay grounded when things get hot.
2005 Judy Ringer, Power & Presence Training
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BODY LANGUAGE by Dr. Joyce M. Knudsen (www.imagemaker1.com).
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Note: Youre welcome to reprint this article as long as it remains complete and unaltered (including the about the author info at the end), and you send a copy of your reprint to judy@judyringer.com.BODY LANGUAGE by Dr. Joyce M. Knudsen (www.imagemaker1.com).
She walks into a room and five people run up to greet her.
Shes not as qualified as you, but she gets the job. Shes not
that smart or attractive, but she always seems to be sought .....